Forgive me, I've been on a kick about teaching philosophy lately. Yesterday I was telling someone that very few things in my life have inspired more growth than teaching guitar for a living. It's true. It takes a lot of energy to grow while making a space for others. All teachers are confronted with the issue of energy conservation when they open up their door to helping others learn. A really good point to remember, if a person wants to make space for others to learn, is learn how not to be a pushover.
I am pretty convinced that some guitar teachers are there to support a student at any cost. They are there to help them and see them do well. This is great, but it is a double edged sword. By being too open there is the danger of allowing personal and professional boundaries to break down between the two parties. Maintaining boundaries, while being a kind person, is a hard but necessary act for both persons. An example from my guitar education work is this: I am pretty strict about making sure that each lesson starts at the top of the hour and not a minute before. I usually have about five minutes to myself between two adjacent lessons. Those five minutes are precious to me; I use them to group my thoughts, create lesson plans, and keep on top of what I need to do. So therefore, I will ask the next student if I may have a couple more minutes before beginning their lesson if they are a bit early. There's nothing wrong with being eager to learn! I like that people show up early. But stating I need more time means that I am very kind to both of us. After I am ready, it's on to rock and roll, and I am better able to make a space for them and their needs. There is an art to maintaining personal boundaries while being a decent person.
Giving and teaching with kindness does not mean allowing everyone to trample all over your personal needs. I believe it is possible to do that while still drawing lines of what is acceptable and unacceptable. It's true that some people need a bit of guidance on how you want the relationship to work. They need boundaries to be set so that everyone's safety can be established. The sooner the boundaries are respected and maintained, the sooner the work blossoms. It's pretty awe-inspiring to watch this happen in realtime, too.